Becky Torrance

Posted by on Jul 15, 2015 in Tributes |


A Community Project to honour women who have enriched our lives

The Ban Righ Centre supports mature women who are starting or returning to education at Queen’s University. In taking this significant step, these women found role models, advocates and inspiration in other women. Then, as they engage in their studies and in their activities beyond Queen’s with friends, family, peers and colleagues, these students effect continual and positive change, extending the reach of their mentors and the Ban Righ Centre. Through “Who Is She?” we honour women who make a difference.

Becky Torrance

Honoured by: Hollis Mitchell

Honouring/Remembering Becky Torrance

Grapefruit juice … how does such a tart taste conjure up the sweetest of friendships? And why does it evoke Becky Torrance, just recently given into the ravages of cancer? It is because giving up her second-favourite drink (next to fine Kelowna wine!) was just one of the consistent, small sacrifices this remarkably grounded and kind woman made during her treatment regimes, and throughout her 55 years. Hers was a life cut off far too soon for the kindred spirits who delighted in her wit and wisdom, compassion and intelligence, humour and grace. Yet it was a life full of ALL the experiences that Becky desired and embraced – unsurpassable friendships, a connected, close family, a fun and loving marriage to a devoted mate, and the light of her heart, her two children. She travelled the world, was a voracious learner and a respected professional. She confounded the medical community with her resilience for six courageous years, and insightfully mentored me along my own cancer journey. Like the bitter-sweet juice she so favoured, Becky had the capacity to pragmatically weather life’s challenges, yet savour the ordinary pleasures, while unfailingly putting her far-less-calm loved ones before her own needs – right to the very end of her body’s energy. Her spontaneous laugh and generous spirit defy all boundaries, and our hearts will forever keep her memory so very alive. We met at Queen’s frosh-week in 1974, and Becky has been my inspiration, refuge and dear life’s companion ever since. Thank you my friend.