Ruth Dennis Schlafer

Posted by on Jul 15, 2015 in Tributes |

WHO IS SHE

A Community Project to honour women who have enriched our lives

The Ban Righ Centre supports mature women who are starting or returning to education at Queen’s University. In taking this significant step, these women found role models, advocates and inspiration in other women. Then, as they engage in their studies and in their activities beyond Queen’s with friends, family, peers and colleagues, these students effect continual and positive change, extending the reach of their mentors and the Ban Righ Centre. Through “Who Is She?” we honour women who make a difference.

Ruth Dennis Schlafer

Honoured by: Barbara Schlafer

The year after my mother died, my dad, at 56, married Ruth. My brothers and I decided if Dad loved her, then we would too and were relieved that he again had a life companion.

Never married, and having lost her own parents the year our mother died, Ruth, at 50, took on a whole family – how lucky we were. It was she who saw and took pains to point out our finer personal points and accomplishments; created family holiday food and festivities; was a loving companion to Dad in daily life, recreation and travel. Ruth was truly there for better or worse. She worried about and cared for our dad from his first heart attack the year they married, through subsequent surgeries and illness, until he died at 89, Ruth at his side. He is still her man.

Young in heart and body even now at 90, Ruth continues to give the best portion of her self to unnamed, unremembered, acts of love and kindness. She has always claimed, “I was put on this earth to help others” and her life is the proof of it.